Swagbucks??

I know you have all heard about Swagbucks by now right? I had an account when it first started…however I have forgotten what email address it was under.  So I decided to start a new one because a lot of people said it is an easy way to save up money via giftcards for my Disney trip.  SO here I am working on that.  Even if it only leads to $100, that’ $100 I didn’t have before.  Below you can see the newest promotion for signing up.

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Still want to sign up?  Then follow my link here and we can get that promotion up there!

 

 

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Just Between Friends Consignment

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Hey all my mom and dad friends who are around the Western Washington area…..Did you know that twice a year there is a POP UP consignment sale that caters to everything you need for your kids?? September 21 will start a 3 day sale that you can go and get all those things you need…for school and everything else.

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They even have a discount day at the end of the sale to save even more money. So why not save some money and go to the sale!!!

Have a bunch of stuff you need to get rid of? Sign up as a consignor. Don’t have the time to do it yourself? They have a consignor service. Seriously…why aren’t you making back some money from everything you have spent??

 

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Not in the local area….just check out the website to find one near you! They exists!!!!

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And so it ends…

A few weeks back I told you about a savings account that you could use to plan out your Disney trips….however, that is no longer an option.

For some reason they decided that they no longer wanted to have the program.  According to the site, this is what they said:

Thanks for Participating

To current account holders:

Thank you for your participation in the Disney Vacation Account program. At this time, we are discontinuing the program and no new accounts or contributions are being accepted.

As a true Disney fan, and to show our appreciation for your participation in the program, below are four (4) options you can choose from. If you have more than one account with the Disney Vacation Account program, you may want to take action for each account.

I am kind of shocked and sadden by this.  I actually had found a way to save up and wasn’t tempted to use the money for other things.

See that is one of my downsides….I have a huge issue with actually saving money.  I tend to pull it out and use it for things that I find more important at the time which then causes me to not have the money for what I was saving for.

So I have received the refund and put this money into a savings account in my bank.  However, I removed the account from my list so that I can’t see it.  I am a huge out of sight out of mind person.

But anyways if you have tips and tricks on how we can save for our trip….let me know!

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Access is limited

So I am finding my access to WordPress is limited to basically the web.  I can’t use the app on my phone or my IPad and that really sucks.

So until I find out what the deal is I will be limited on my posts since it is not always easy for me to access the interwebs via a browser.

Has anyone else had the same issues?  How did you fix it???

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Life gets so hectic sometimes

Why is it life can be so hectic sometimes? I mean you have a page and a half long list of things to do and only time to do a 1/4 of the things….

Then you go and forget to do those things…just to add them to your next list.  It keeps going and going.

I promised myself I would keep this blog regular and I am failing.  I get 2-3 posts every couple of weeks and then I completely forget about it.  HAHA!

It is ok…summer is messing with me as well as pure exhaustion.  But I will survive.  Thursday I will work on some posts to get up and we can make this go much better.

 

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Fitbit Charging cable- Charge 2 Review

Do you own a Fitbit Charger 2? How many chargers do you have for it? Have you looked at the price of buying extra ones?  They run around $10-$20 depending where you buy it.  I recently was able to purchase some at a discounted price and was actually quite pleased.

I want to tell you this because my Charge 2 runs out of battery at the worst time and I always seem to forget my charger.  So I wanted to get extra ones anyways so I can have one with me at all times.  I have one now at home, in my car, and at work.  So now I have no reason to not have my Charge 2….charged.

So I bought mine from Amazon, retail price $6.99 for 2 charging cables.  I received them and plugged it in immediately to test it out.  I didn’t just want to know if it would charge but even how long.  I mean, I am almost certain these are not Apple brand so I wanted to know how they compared.

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They do charge and they charge at almost the same speed as the Apple charger.  I haven’t had any issues with them so far and they have done an adequate job with charging.  I enjoy having more than one, and if for some reason something happens I have backups in general as well.

So if you have been looking to get a replacement or even extras, seriously think about purchasing these.

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Graduation

If you have been following my posts you will know that I recently had a child graduate.

Have you ever been to a graduation? I haven’t except my own….until now.  My oldest child graduated from high school the end of May.  Bitter sweet, let me tell you.  It was super emotional and super draining.

First I had to go from Seattle, WA to Fulton, MS.  That is a 2,500 mile trip give or take.  I took a flight of course.  Flew from Seattle, WA to Houston, TX and then onto Memphis, TN.  From Memphis, TN I drove 2 hours to Fulton, MS.  Let me tell you.  The day I left I only slept 3 hours and had a red-eye flight.  I didn’t sleep on the flight at all either.  Then drove with no sleep.  I still didn’t get to sleep until after 9.  I was so very very tired.

Graduation was the next day.  So much to do and I swear there was not a whole lot of time.  My best friend came over to see me as well and cheer me on.  There was so much emotion just with that….I hadn’t seen her in at least 7 years.  Who hadn’t I seen in 7 years.  Both my daughter and my best friend.  So Saturday was super emotional.  And then my mom showed up…also who I haven’t seen in 7 years.

We worked super hard to get my daughter ready for graduation.  The night before my daughter and I went and bought her shoes and a dress.  The day of I decided to fix her hair and make her “graduation ready”.

It was a lot of work but well worth it all to see my oldest walk down and get her diploma.  She was absolutely beautiful.  I am one happy mama.

I now get the luxury to send her off to college now.  However, she will be going to college here in Washington.  For me that is great because I get to see her and help her through it.  I hope that in 4 years I get to attend another graduation with her.

My next high school graduations are not until 2028 and 2030.  That seems so far off, but in reality it is right around the corner….and I am really looking forward to seeing the babies graduate.

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Disneyland….a plan…

So I have a plan.  Or should I say I set up a plan.  I want to take my family to Disneyland in 2019.  So I went to the Disney website and found a payment plan type thing that you can use to save up for that great trip.

I decided 2019 because I mean seriously, I should be able to save about $3000-4000 in two years, right?  I am currently having $40 a week taken out.  My goal…$5000.  Benefits is that it goes into an account I can’t really touch, but I can withdraw money if I REALLY need it.  I can change how much I put in and when at any time….and I can add one time contributions.  Best thing….if I go through the website or through a Disney travel organization…I can have everything paid for with this account including hotel, airfare, Disney tickets, and even some other things outside Disney.

But wait! You can also use this account to save up for Disney World, Disney Cruises, and Disney in Hawaii! Seriously!  If you are like me, this is a great option.  And if I have to push my trip out…no biggie!  There is no penalty for removing money (other than you now will have less) and you don’t have to take the trip exactly when  you say.

I could talk about this all day….but seriously head over to the website and check it out.  Figure out how much you would need and when you want to go and …well go from there.

And have fun!

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Exhaustion. Can you get through it?

Everyone goes through some sort of exhaustion, right? Some though a little more than others….

I have been trying to find ways to get past my exhaustion or even just ways to relax over time.  I am so stressed most of the time that it makes me not such a nice person.

My husband is always asking me to find a hobby.  Hobby? Wow what is that? I mean me take time to do something for myself? Really?? How does that work?

I mean look at this blog.  I set this up as a stress relief and a way to venture out of my comfort zone and I am not doing so great.  I mean sometimes I do really good and then others….well back the the exhaustion.

Writing takes energy and when you are exhausted do you really have energy? No, that means my thinking is at a bare minimum.  But it is ok…because that is what happens as an ADULT.

Adult….that is such a scary word.  Even as an adult that word is scary.  I mean responsibilities and taking care of  yourself…wow can we just wait a minute please????  Why is it we get more and more responsibilities but we don’t actually learn anymore than we did before….it always starts over.

I mean I work 3 days a week, 12 hour shift each time I work, and I work nights.  During the day, I work 14 hours, 7 days a week.  Sleep? I do that when I can.  If you saw my FitBit you would cringe.  Exhaustion? Oh that isn’t even the word for it anymore.  I don’t even think there is one.

Relaxation comes in many ways.  Sitting on your bottom doing nothing at all (right…..) or sewing (because everyone in your house has something they need sewn and you think that if you do it it’ll relax you) or reading a book (that you get interrupted reading 400 times).  Wait, so where did I get relaxed?

After the kids go to bed….that is when you relax.  Right? Oh goodness no, that is when you really get things done with out INTERRUPTION! Man can you win?

I get it.  I really do.  Balance of work and life and family.  Can you do it? I am sure some can.  Can I? Most days.  Can you????

What are some ways you deal with exhaustion.  I want to know.

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Speaking Up: 13 Reasons Why

I have been contemplating writing this for a few days.  My opinions on this miniseries/book run deep and true.  I think people are losing sight of what the actual series was/is about and what the book was/is about.  I also think that there is so much miscommunication with the interpretation of the book/miniseries.

Now mind  you there are many different variances between the book and the miniseries.  The “wow” factor as some would call it was put into the miniseries that just wasn’t there in the book.  I won’t go into details about the differences.  That is not what I want to focus on. can go read/watch to see the differences.

Now- if you haven’t read the book or seen the miniseries this will have spoilers.  So just stop right here if you actually don’t want to know what happens in them.  Because I will be going into details about that.  It is important because there is a sort of transitioning that is related.

I want to apologize in advance, I will be all over the place.  I can be a passionate writer but I am a writer that needs to write things as I think them…so if it gets a little confusing…that is why.  This is partially because of my ADHD…trust me you should have seen my papers in school.

Let’s start with this.  This is something I don’t share and I don’t think there are many people out there who know this about me.  So I am sharing this because 13 Reasons Why brought up so much in me.  I was “Hannah” in high school.  I went through much of what she did and I will tell you this….eventually it eats away at the soul.  And coming back from it is not an easy task.

Triggers…this show has many triggers.  Life has many triggers.  Talking to teens about suicide, sex, driving, college, and almost everything else is a trigger.  Learning to manage those triggers…that is what you need to be concentrating on.

Kids in high school are mean, heck even junior high. When you start out not being popular or “well off” or classified as a nerd (which wasn’t popular to be back in the day) things are much harder for you.  But then add in bonus CRAP and things go downhill quickly.

Rumors hurt….ALOT.  Once a rumor gets started, that is it.  Have you ever had a rumor started about you?  I mean a knife wrenching rumor that makes you want to never return?  I have! When I was in high school I was labeled as a slut, easy, and so many other things.  Guess what?!?! I was a virgin.  Granted, yes I did do some things…but never once did I have intercourse.  And there started the first problem.  Because I wouldn’t have sex (AND BELIEVE ME THEY ALREADY KNEW THIS) I pissed a few guys off.  So in return…they started calling me a whore, a slut, and that I was super easy.  I had to hear this almost every day.  It didn’t go away..it just manifested into so much more.  I didn’t date boys at my school because of this.  However, on the rare occasion I did date a boy from my high school…it quickly ended because they heard the rumor (the 2 times I dated someone from my high school they were both new students).

Now…with the rumors in true bloom came the next part of this devastating mess.  People don’t just pass on rumors.  People add to the rumors.  The rumors because something of their own.  You get bullied from the rumors and they hurt…even more.  There is no escape.  You try and talk to the guidance counselors and the teachers.  But, it is their word against yours.  Unless the guidance counselor or teachers hear the rumors themselves….it is just that….and you are kind of screwed.  So now what? Move to another school? Really, if it was that easy we would just hope from school to school.

Now that the rumors are in full swing and you are devastated to walk through the door of your school….you do it. You swallow everything and do it.  Why? You have to.  It hurts and some people can’t deal with it.  Now….a boy starts acting nice to you.  You seem like you are having a change …a chance…to actually be you.  Your stupid.  Why? Because this boy knows the rumors, believes the rumors, and wants to test out the rumors.  He isn’t stupid…he knows you have your guard up.  Who cares?  You do.  You want to feel love and you want people to like you.  You put yourself in a bad situation…next thing you know things take a huge turn for the worse.  This boy whom you invited over to study with is now climbing on top of you and no matter how much you say no, he continues.  He is bigger.  You finally give up.  Now, who are you going to tell? Do you even think anyone cares?

Go to school, rumors are flying even more.  You know the truth.  I mean of course no one believes you.  I mean why would they?  I mean I guess you could have went to the police, the hospital, your parents….but really is that how a teenager thinks?

So let’s see.  So far how has my story been like Hannah’s,  We both had nasty rumors flying around.  Granted they didn’t start the same way, but rarely do rumors start the same way.  We were both put in positions to have sex when we clearly did not want to.  We both attempted to tell people about things but …he said she said…We both because really depressed from the actions or others as well as our own actions.  Life around us wasn’t great.  I was a poor child with a mom who had been to prison.  Hannah was pretty well off and then they weren’t.

I will say that in the book her parent’s weren’t even a thought.  I think by them adding the parents in the miniseries it added more depth.  She wanted them to use college fund to help them out.  They refused.  Unrealistically there is a point where people tend to think…well if I am not alive then they can use that fund and get themselves out of debt.  True story, it happens!

Now…I wrote what I wrote because first and foremost….many people can’t deal with things like that happening to them.  They feel so hope. When you are in a situation where there is absolutely no end in sight….you want to sink away.  Yes suicide is a permanent fix to a temporary problem.  But when that problem is lasting 2-4 years…that feels like a lifetime.

Now back to Hannah.  She endured so many other things, and I agree with some posters…she brought some of her angst and turmoil on herself.  A friend hit a stop sign and knocked it down and then someone died because of a car accident.  Well, she called 911 and tried to let them know about the sign….however they thought she was calling about the accident that happened.  Regardless of if she actually did it or not, I think she is still responsible to say something.  That was on her.

Again Hannah….getting mad and hurt over a boy’s choice…while in high school that seems like the end of the road….IT IS NOT!  There are so many boys out there….don’t freak about one.  I promise if that is happening there is another for you and he is NOT the one.  Don’t hate on your friends either…I mean especially if they date someone you like….when they have NO IDEA you liked them.  Again Hannah, cmon.

MY BIGGEST ISSUE WITH HANNAH….if your friend gets raped and YOU KNOW…you are just as bad as the person who raped her for not telling.  I mean, maybe not literally…but seriously…it might suck and be hard to say but tell at least the person it happened to.

Ok so the last part of that posting was about what happened…so when your world is upside down and bad things keep happening…sometimes just wishing for it to all go away is common.

People think the miniseries was just about…well if you or you or you had just maybe possibly done this or that then she wouldn’t have done what she did.  No!  If that is what you take away from this miniseries you clearly have never been bullied, raped, hurt by anyone, had a rumor told about you that made you feel ashamed or like you want to die, or had thoughts of suicide.

This was about a girl…who over time…gave up.  Did she have mental health issues? I don’t think so.  Not by what most people are thinking,  Bad things happened and kept happening.  When things just keep happening they build up.  She didn’t take the time to actually try to talk to people while it was happening.  She let it build up and build up.  Talking from experience…NOT A GOOD IDEA!

NEVER EVER LET IT BUILD UP!  It is not good for anyone…including yourself.  How many times have you thought about ending your life? Once? Twice? A Dozen?  I can tell you I have thought about it more than a dozen times in my life.  I have tried AND FAILED on two occasions.  I was weak.  I was scared.  I felt I had no where to go. I felt it was never going to end.

People in general need help.  Help from friends and family or from medical personnel or help from a total stranger.  People have a hard time asking for help.  I mean, seriously have you ever been in a situation where people didn’t believe you?  It makes it worse.  Depression is a serious thing and with help managed but do you know? Do you know if you have it?

So have I confused you yet?  I am sorry if I have.  Where do I stand on this miniseries?  I firmly believe that whether in book form or miniseries form…all kids should watch/read this.  Why?  Because, you have no clue how YOURS/THEIR death is going to impact them.  Kids are frigging cruel.  All those nasty things they say about others builds up. Add other things to the mix and it becomes a ticking time bomb.

Say what you will about not letting your kids watch/read this.  But this topic is no different than any of the other difficult topics out there.  I mean just because you talk to you child about sex and how to protect themselves doesn’t mean they are going to go have sex right?  Talking to your kids about suicide doesn’t mean they are going to commit it.  Most of the time, you never know.  It is preemptive.  I think YOU NEED TO BE PREEMPTIVE.  Don’t wait til they give you a reason to talk to them…it is already to late.

THAT is what 13 Reasons Why is about.  It is about communication.  Help.  It is about knowing what you say and do can hurt others.  It is about saying things that are not true or that you aren’t sure are true can be devastating.  It is about telling the truth when bad things happen.  It is about asking for help from those around you.  It is about never giving up.

If you won’t show your children 13 Reasons Why, then find another way to talk to them.  Just because they may not be the one thinking of suicide, they may know a friend or they may be one of the reasons someone else has given up hope.  Remember it takes a village to raise a child but it only takes one person to burn the village to the ground.

Ok I am not sure if I got my thoughts out.  I am not even sure if you can even follow them.  But in simple terms…don’t focus so much on the whole “if someone would have …..” it isn’t about that.  One of them could have made a difference or maybe wouldn’t have.  But every one of those people caused her pain in some form or fashion.  People leave notes when the attempt suicide…she just went a little further.

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